Talking only goes so far
As someone who is currently in the twilight era of my sex-life, let me say that while I certainly respect Brian's thoughts on persuasion and respect, let me point out that respect is a two way street. Some respect for your needs and fulfillment needs to be displayed IMMEDIATELY, even if it is only a half-way gesture. Flat out refusal to participate, exclamations of 'disgust' or 'revulsion' are a non-starter for a continued relationship, unless she is so special to you, that your desires can be capped-up and discarded (dangerous, and unhealthy phsycologically, (sp?). If 'discussion' keeps things unresolved, then cut the cord. Painful at first, but trust me, as someone who never realized most of sexual desires until over 40 years of age, life is way too damn short to spend it with a prude. There are plenty of gals of brain and ambition out there who know that desire is a two way street. Methinks you give your current partner waaaaay too much credit for intelligence, or you are confusing intelligence for deviousness, as she is getting everything she desires, and your are getting........to cum in a towel???? WTF?? Time to face reality dude, if you want to be married to a towel you found the perfect gal, otherwise you need to get out there in the pond and find some more fish! Make it clear, that you desire more 'porn-style' sex (uninhibited sex) or there is no need for you to remain unsatisfied and needing to share your bed with a towel, and let her decide what address she wants to sleep at.
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