Wife's fantasy

[bronljax]

My wife has always had a fantasy of having a MFM 3some. Back when we started dating I said no way but now I'm open to the idea. The only thing is whenever I try to guide a chat to that topic to try and say I'm ok with the idea now she says things like "I know you wouldn't wanna see me sucking another guy's dick." Truth be told, I would! But after she says things like that I can't just say "Hey hun I want you to suck another guy and I wanna watch while I fuck you."
Any ideas on how to bring this up without getting shut down every time?

[ernie2003]

If it were me, when she replied that way I'd simply respond "Oh yes i would. Really. That would be exciting to me."

It sounds like she is responding that way because she knows how you used to feel. And you are not continuing the conversation because that is what you think she wants.

The only way to clear the air is to talk about it. Maybe she no longer harbors this fantasy, and that is her way of telling you that. But, it sounds like she is trying to be nice. Only way to find out for sure is to talk about it.

Let us know how it goes, and if you do that threesome, give us the details on that too please.

[TheAssLover]

Express your fantasy during sex. I don't know if u do that but we do and trust me, it's awesome !!

If you see that she responds well, keep it up. Later on you can discuss it more.

[loadmaster011]

^^

Totally agree! When we're in the middle of fucking a lot comes out that is honest and which reveals a good deal about each other's desires.

[bronljax]

Thanks for the honest thoughts everyone. I'll let you know what happens. I'm not rushing this (those who are married understand it takes some time to introduce new ideas to anything) and I'll keep you posted.

[ernie2003]

A friend of mine once called the idea Loadmaster and Asslover mentioned "cum goggles". Kind of like "beer goggles" where members of the opposite sex seem more approachable and even attractive the more you have to drink. In this case, it is more along the lines of subjects are easier to bring up, and partners seen more receptive while going at it, but before you have cum. The inhibitions return very shortly thereafter, but in the moment almost anything can be brought up.

Seems like it is worth a try.

[SimonKemp]

My advice, for what it is worth...

STOP talking/thinking about it... Just do it!

[Pixel556]

First step is to find out if it still is a fantasy of hers and the best way to do that is by asking. Then you have to find the right guy to introduce into your bedroom that will be respectful and not creepy. This can be hard but do-able.

Good luck!

[bronljax]

Thanks for all your suggestions.

We talked this over and agreed that it could be fun and that we trust each other alot. However, we both agreed that no matter how hot the fantasy we couldn't predict how we would feel afterwards in the post orgasmic crash to reality. So we took this into account and decided together that adding someone else to our bedroom wasn't a good idea.
The fantasy might live on in our minds only but I'd rather have that mental one than mess up a marriage of years for a couple of blissful minutes of reality. 3 somes aren't for everyone and I'm happy for those who get to experience them with their loved ones.

[thor2]

Thanks for all your suggestions.

We talked this over and agreed that it could be fun and that we trust each other alot. However, we both agreed that no matter how hot the fantasy we couldn't predict how we would feel afterwards in the post orgasmic crash to reality. So we took this into account and decided together that adding someone else to our bedroom wasn't a good idea.
The fantasy might live on in our minds only but I'd rather have that mental one than mess up a marriage of years for a couple of blissful minutes of reality. 3 somes aren't for everyone and I'm happy for those who get to experience them with their loved ones.

That's pretty much how I feel about it too. Thanks for nicely encapsulating my thoughts.