How can I convince my gf to take more facials?

[justforme11]

So basically I am 26, she is 21, and I have given her probably about a dozen facials in the past and everytime it's incredible. I can really cover her face with about 10 plus ropes. I absolutely don't want to force her or make her feel pressured, but now facials have been designated to very special occasions which are few and far between. She is very apprehensive about them now and it could literally just be once a year. We used to come up with deals for them, like I'd buy her a small gift in exchange for a facial lol but I hate the idea of that now.

Like I said, I can't make her do them if she doesn't want to and the last thing I want to do is make her feel pressured and put off by me, but they are literally my only fetish in sex and I would just appreciate being able to do them just a bit more frequently, even once or twice a month is fine!

Appreciate any advice.

Thanks

[Teamcooper]

As someone in a very similar situation I can only advise two things. 1- Don’t push it and 2- Find a way to reintroduce them

The first should speak for itself. Nobody wants anything pushed on them and men who do, well are arseholes.

But in terms of finding ways to bring them back more often this might seem more complicated than it seems and you need to find what works. Example being that my wife doesn’t really like them know knows I do and offers/ allows me to every now and then.
What I have found over time is that she’s more excited by them and even asks for them if we are having rough sex. So not only does this manage my expectations the rest of the time, it’s also makes me know what in what events it’s more likely to happen, and how to make it work for me.

Anyway. Try and find what works, how she can become more excited by or at least obliging in them

[bluedancer]

My wife was hesitant/tolerant for our first few years of marriage, eventually turning into a cum whore milf that craved cum and facials and when we became swingers started taking them from other guys even. What happened for me was lots of patience, reassurance, normalizing all kinds of sex to reverse the damage of mainstream views on sex, embracing porn, etc. At one point I explained to her just how much beauty and respect I have for her before, during, and after all sex acts and especially facials. Over the years she became so much more confident and liberated. It may not happen as soon as you like (or at all) but with patience and keeping a super positive view of sex and cum and facials, maybe you will get there with her. Of course it helps to treat her like a queen, constantly be working on improving yourself, and so on.

[quattrog]

Maybe its the amount of cum. Next time after the first few ropes, aim somewhere else.

[ukboy]

Try to get her into cum first by showing her hii oh w much u get turned on by cumming on her body, her feet, hands and then maybe she’ll let u cum on her check and finally mouth, all good things cum to those who wait. Oh and don’t be an asshole or that door will close forever…

[Biggus]

Don´t push it and try speak with her. My wife was very not in to it and now...well, what a crazy craver!!

[ukboy]

My wife now asks for me to cum on her cheek and she enjoys it, today some ran into her mouth, see if she gets used to flavor.. I let her squirt in my mouth and she’s a big squirter.. she loves it so it’s only fair that I do the same to her..

[kowa]

After 7 years of nothing, and 6 months of being the luckiest man alive, what triggered the shift is trust, confidence, and her knowing facials were a huge fantasy for me. Hope this helps

[SammySoHard]

So basically I am 26, she is 21, and I have given her probably about a dozen facials in the past and everytime it's incredible. I can really cover her face with about 10 plus ropes. I absolutely don't want to force her or make her feel pressured, but now facials have been designated to very special occasions which are few and far between. She is very apprehensive about them now and it could literally just be once a year. We used to come up with deals for them, like I'd buy her a small gift in exchange for a facial lol but I hate the idea of that now.

Like I said, I can't make her do them if she doesn't want to and the last thing I want to do is make her feel pressured and put off by me, but they are literally my only fetish in sex and I would just appreciate being able to do them just a bit more frequently, even once or twice a month is fine!

Appreciate any advice.

Thanks

I'll gladly take 10 ropes to the face if she won't.

[kalvin45]

Yeah, don't do "deals" for facials. It may seem like harmless fun and you may get a handful of facials out of them, but all it will do is make her feel objectified and you feeling like you just paid for sex. I'm saying this from experience with my wife.

I have a few theories, but only you know exactly what's going on in your relationship. My first thought is it sounds like you're making it too much of a thing. She knows you want facials, but if you're always talking about it or she knows you're always on this forum or looking at porn, then it may be a turnoff for her. Taking a facial for a lot of women is a submissive thing - maybe she feels awkward about it because society frowns upon women being submissive. Or - and this is my best guess - maybe her needs are not being met in the relationship and this is her way of expressing it. She knows you want something, but she's not getting what she wants, so she subconsciously decides you won't get what you want.

My wife doesn't particularly like facials but she doesn't hate them either. She allows me to cum on her face because she knows it makes me happy and she wants me to be happy. When her needs are met and she feels loved and romanced, then I get joy and enthusiasm out of her when I blast a load onto her face. When she's not feeling particularly close to me, then I get a stoic expression with zero emotion as cum cascades from her forehead, onto her eyes and closed mouth before the load rests on her chest. That's when I know we need to take a step back from facials and I need to focus on what she needs/wants.

My advice would be for you to focus on her needs. Romance her, talk to her, go on dates, snuggle, hold her hand, show interest in what's going on in her life, but don't bring up facials or sex or anything like that. Be intimate for a while (like at least a couple of months) where you do everything she enjoys. If there is no pressure from you to cum on her face, then she may want you to do it because wants you to be happy. If you try this and she still doesn't bring up the idea of taking a facial from you, then don't be angry or frustrated with her. Have a serious conversation about how much you enjoy being with her, how much you want her to be happy, but explain that you giving her a facial is a huge turn on for you, makes you feel like she accepts you, and that when she doesn't consider it then you feel rejected. She may not understand the importance or she may not care. If she doesn't care then you might have to move on.

Let us know how it goes.