We need your advice!

So, Juliette and I are thinking of trying out the swinger thing. We’ve been talking about it for a long time, but really have no idea how to begin. We’ve got so many questions, but nobody to ask. That’s where you all come in. If anyone on here (and we know you’re out there) who’s been involved with swing stuff would be willing to give us some advice, we’d sure appreciate it!

A little background first – We live in the Northeast US, and have been together for over a decade. We've kicked around the idea of swinging for a while now, and may finally be ready to try. I am first and foremost a voyeur; I love to watch. That’s what I’m most interested in getting out of this experience. And that’s ideal, because Juliette isn’t thrilled about sharing me with another person. While I would love to see her sucking another guy’s cock (or even several other guys’ cocks :Shocked:), or coming while getting fucked by another dude, she says she isn’t comfortable with seeing me with another woman. That’s fine with me, as I’m really in it to watch her. She, on the other hand, is interested in swinging because she loves sex, but is timid about finding the right person. She has to like any prospective partner; she’s not just in it for the dick. Not that she’s looking for a relationship; we’re very secure in ours. She just feels the need to get to know him, and like him, before choosing to go further.

So, here are the questions –

1. How do we go about finding a partner for her? Juliette thinks it might be a good idea to go to an event where there are many couples. I’ve researched some that are coming up in our area, and they could be interesting, but the flyers show younger, fitter people than we are. I’ve heard that there can tend to be a mix of ages and body types at things like this. That would be great, as we are both 40+, and not as slim as we once were. But how to know? Should we take a chance and sign up, or is this likely to end in embarrassment?

2. What about Craig’s List? I’ve heard some bad stories, and it seems there are a lot of no-shows. And what if she doesn’t like him? We don’t want to waste anyone’s time. Is this a good way to find someone?

3. I’ve seen a thing called Swing Life Style online. One of the events we’re looking at is even sanctioned by them. It seems to be a decent resource. Anyone familiar with it?

4. Finally, what about me? As I said, I’m more into it to watch than anything else. How is this received in the swing community? If we go to a party or event, will everyone think I’m a creep? We certainly don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable.


Any advice anyone could give would be most helpful. Thanks for taking the time to respond!

Juliette et Franklin

I think you need to look at the cuckold scene and find a compatible bull for Juliette. Far simpler and easier for you.

try cuckoldplace.com

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Originally Posted by SimonKemp

I think you need to look at the cuckold scene and find a compatible bull for Juliette. Far simpler and easier for you.

try cuckoldplace.com

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We will check that out. Thanks for getting in touch, Simon!

-j&f

"How do we go about finding a partner for her? Juliette thinks it might be a good idea to go to an event where there are many couples."
These can be fun but they can also be intimidating. It matters on the event and who is there.

"I’ve researched some that are coming up in our area, and they could be interesting, but the flyers show younger, fitter people than we are."
If they are flyers, they are probably just advertisements. It could be that the people on the flyer are not even going to be there. They are models.

I went to a swinger event once and the only people dressed as Slutty as I was were the dancers paid to be there. :rofl: Everyone (who wouldn't bother to talk to me lol) kept fixing my dress because my nipple was falling out. I was confused as to whether I was at a swinger party or not. lol

"I’ve heard that there can tend to be a mix of ages and body types at things like this."
Every single event I have ever attended was a mix of people. Don't be nervous. True swingers can tell whether someone who is heavier or older or slimmer or this that or the other will have a good sexual presence. Good sex is what the true swinger looks for. I have men who are 60, 63, 53, 46, 28 on my list and they are on my list because they turn me on.

"Should we take a chance and sign up?"
Yes!

"Is this likely to end in embarrassment?"
Only if you let other people make you feel that way. The lifestyle is about you two having fun. You might not meet anyone. If you go and feel sexy or use the event to dress inappropriately in public amongst strangers and then end up going home and having hot sex, it is a success. :thumbs_up:
It is rare for me to meet someone at these parties. I am too kinky for most swingers. But I can tell you that being dressed like a total Whore in front of people I don't know totally turns me on!! :red_rose:

"What about Craig’s List? I’ve heard some bad stories, and it seems there are a lot of no-shows."
Do NOT use CL!!!! I have heard bad and good stories but mostly bad, really bad.

"And what if she doesn’t like him?"
All email corresponding should include pics. True swinger males that are going to be all they promise to be will be willing to send pics. If they can't send pics, they are flakes, fakes and/or cheaters. (You will hear a lot about jobs and not being able to send pics. Move on and ignore them. We all have jobs. My favorite is a "job in national security" :rofl: )

"I’ve seen a thing called Swing Life Style online."
I have used SLS in the past before I had a website. (My website gives me way better access to men who are as perverted as I am.) It worked occasionally for me. Remember, face pics, face pics, face pics or the flake ratio goes way up. There is a feature there that allows you to post pics that you can lock and allow only certain people to see. You should have pics also. Don't post unedited sex pics there though. I think they are owned by Alt.com and that company sells pics to other websites.

"Finally, what about me? As I said, I’m more into it to watch than anything else. How is this received in the swing community? If we go to a party or event, will everyone think I’m a creep? We certainly don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable."
It is a very common swinger thing. Everyone I know in the swing scene who is a couple considers men like you solid gold. Men who enjoy and relish their women getting off whether they join in or not are the best men in the swing scene. I always say yes to men like you. It means you are going to put my fun first because you put Juliette's fun first. Juliette is lucky.

If you have any other questions, don't hesitate to ask.
Piper

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Originally Posted by Juliette et Franklin

So, Juliette and I are thinking of trying out the swinger thing. We’ve been talking about it for a long time, but really have no idea how to begin. We’ve got so many questions, but nobody to ask. That’s where you all come in. If anyone on here (and we know you’re out there) who’s been involved with swing stuff would be willing to give us some advice, we’d sure appreciate it!

A little background first – We live in the Northeast US, and have been together for over a decade. We've kicked around the idea of swinging for a while now, and may finally be ready to try. I am first and foremost a voyeur; I love to watch. That’s what I’m most interested in getting out of this experience. And that’s ideal, because Juliette isn’t thrilled about sharing me with another person. While I would love to see her sucking another guy’s cock (or even several other guys’ cocks :Shocked:), or coming while getting fucked by another dude, she says she isn’t comfortable with seeing me with another woman. That’s fine with me, as I’m really in it to watch her. She, on the other hand, is interested in swinging because she loves sex, but is timid about finding the right person. She has to like any prospective partner; she’s not just in it for the dick. Not that she’s looking for a relationship; we’re very secure in ours. She just feels the need to get to know him, and like him, before choosing to go further.

So, here are the questions –

1. How do we go about finding a partner for her? Juliette thinks it might be a good idea to go to an event where there are many couples. I’ve researched some that are coming up in our area, and they could be interesting, but the flyers show younger, fitter people than we are. I’ve heard that there can tend to be a mix of ages and body types at things like this. That would be great, as we are both 40+, and not as slim as we once were. But how to know? Should we take a chance and sign up, or is this likely to end in embarrassment?

2. What about Craig’s List? I’ve heard some bad stories, and it seems there are a lot of no-shows. And what if she doesn’t like him? We don’t want to waste anyone’s time. Is this a good way to find someone?

3. I’ve seen a thing called Swing Life Style online. One of the events we’re looking at is even sanctioned by them. It seems to be a decent resource. Anyone familiar with it?

4. Finally, what about me? As I said, I’m more into it to watch than anything else. How is this received in the swing community? If we go to a party or event, will everyone think I’m a creep? We certainly don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable.


Any advice anyone could give would be most helpful. Thanks for taking the time to respond!

Juliette et Franklin

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Hey, good luck. Not sure how I'd feel about another guy watching me but I have always wondered what it's like to get sucked by some of the women on these boards or the ladies of the men. Shooting a big load on some guy's girl and then talking about it sound pretty hot.

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Originally Posted by SimonKemp

I think you need to look at the cuckold scene and find a compatible bull for Juliette. Far simpler and easier for you.

try cuckoldplace.com

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I agree with Simon, sounds like you're looking for a bull to cuckold you. I suggest being careful about your screening process for both of your safety. I've hear of bulls who weren't respectful or were kind of violent and it was because the couples rushed into the situation.

I've been a bull a couple times, once for a co-worker's wife who fantasized about Interracial. Another time it was for a ex who I was still close with. Her new boyfriend knew me and we were cool. Both were white and we actually lived a few blocks from each other. One day I was having lunch with my ex when she told me her bf was asking about how we used to fuck. I didn't think much of it until after they got married and they asked me to fuck her as he watched. It was an extremely hot, sex with my ex-gf was always amazing but pounding her that first time as she described how much she loved it was intense. I admit it was a little weird afterwards because there were a lot of days where we'd fuck when he wasn't around, but later she'd always describe to him in detail exactly what I'd do to her which was good for their sex lives. We stopped shortly after she got pregnant (with his baby, not mine!) and they soon moved into another state.