A facial in cheating

About 2 weeks ago my gf of nearly 2 years cheated on me with another guy after a night of dancing. Long story short but she was frustrated at the way I was treating her and it culminated in her doing this. I was never abusive at all, I guess I just didn't show up when she wanted me to and showed a lack of care. I am still with her and we are trying to work through it but it is very difficult.

I asked for some of the details and now I wish I didn't haha. Apparently they started have sex pretty much straight away when they got back to his place and he was being pretty rough and freaky. He then pulled out and ripped off the condom and decided to shoot across her body and face. Imagine having to hear that as her bf of 2 years who is totally in love? Lmao. The facial wasn't consensual on her part.

She said it was only a 'drizzle' and nothing compared to what I can do where she said it is like I am decorating a cake lol. It sounds like it was just one or two spurts or something. I have been sat here for about a week just thinking of that moment all the time basically and I am trying to move past it. I think it's because I place so much weight on an act like that, and I'm sure it is something you guys will understand too. We know that is a special moment in sex and to think it happened to her is brutal and makes me feel emasculated in a way.

She boosted my confidence in other ways like saying my dick was bigger, I am better in bed and that I have a better body, and by the sounds of it a bigger cumshot but STILL she lay there with another man's load on her.

For me it would be a simple case of asking for a crazy sex night with her but for religious reasons she is deciding to be celibate. Crazy right? I'm not sure it will last and she has regretted it, felt pain and wants to stick with me.

Something like that fucks you up to the core. Just wanted to share my story but I guess any advice would be great as well.

Maybe not even advice, just some understanding on why that and all of the sex makes me feel like shit. Lol

Man this might be easier said than done, but think of it like this: it’s a kinky nasty perverted thing she did. AND: it’s kind of hot! Your girl went out and took somebody else’s cum. She’s a freak! And it sounds like she still takes yours, and loves it. Obviously it was kind of a rash decision made under stress, but in the end? It’s just not that big of a deal. Think of the hot kinky aspect of it, and if you still like her and want to stay together, focus on that part of it and move on. She seems to care a lot about you and not at all about the guy she acted out with in a one off.

The deciding to be celebate part is odd to me. I can't help but think that after cheating deciding to be celebate is a red flag of a bigger issue.

I totally understand your sense of betrayal. It was incredibly hurtful, and for her to describe it to you can't have helped. Your rage is perfectly understandable.

But wait. You have a girl you've clearly been very keen on. There's lots of things about her that make special. What's more, she clearly loves you to bits. AND she's delighted to have you do the things that really turn you on, not least, spunk on her gorgeous smiling face. She made a really stupid mistake - she's admitted it and begged for fogiveness. To me she still sounds like a real keeper. Explain how you feel and how angry you are. And then get her to slurp, drool and suck on the cock she really likes - yours - and decorate her like a cake as often as you possibly can!

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Originally Posted by random1858

Man this might be easier said than done, but think of it like this: it’s a kinky nasty perverted thing she did. AND: it’s kind of hot! Your girl went out and took somebody else’s cum. She’s a freak! And it sounds like she still takes yours, and loves it. Obviously it was kind of a rash decision made under stress, but in the end? It’s just not that big of a deal. Think of the hot kinky aspect of it, and if you still like her and want to stay together, focus on that part of it and move on. She seems to care a lot about you and not at all about the guy she acted out with in a one off.

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I have honestly thought about this and tried to think about it in this way, but I'm really struggling to because I don't have a cuck mentality. That is my girl, and by the sounds of it she was destroyed. Shit like that cuts you so deep bro. Like would seeing that as someone who isn't in love with her be hot? Yes. But as someone in love with her it fucking hurts.

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Originally Posted by prrp99

I totally understand your sense of betrayal. It was incredibly hurtful, and for her to describe it to you can't have helped. Your rage is perfectly understandable.

But wait. You have a girl you've clearly been very keen on. There's lots of things about her that make special. What's more, she clearly loves you to bits. AND she's delighted to have you do the things that really turn you on, not least, spunk on her gorgeous smiling face. She made a really stupid mistake - she's admitted it and begged for fogiveness. To me she still sounds like a real keeper. Explain how you feel and how angry you are. And then get her to slurp, drool and suck on the cock she really likes - yours - and decorate her like a cake as often as you possibly can!

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I really appreciate the sympathy and understanding. Thinking of those moments they shared and the fun of it, and the specifics of her getting blasted really fuck with my head as someone with facials and cumshots as their fetish. It's a deep primal feeling that I can't quite describe, but the fact they shared those special sexual moments together is something that tears me into pieces. I guess I just have to remember that it happened before more, I got to do it with her (a lot), and it will happen after me if we split up.

If you saw how gorgeous she is, and how perfect her face is you would be have even more sympathy lol. She really is extremely pretty and has the sexiest smile and lips. I got to completely facialise her about a dozen times and i really used to glaze her face with at least 10+ thick ropes of cum. Because of her decision to go celibate now, unfortunately that is a form of healing that I don't think I'll get to explore, but I NEED it after what happened.

Unfortunately I dont have the pic of the facial anymore but hhorner in this thread has seen it and it is amazing lol

To me, cheating followed by celibacy sounds like she's trying to get you to break up with her. I could be totally wrong, just what I would think.