My wife wants nothing to do with my Cum! :(

My wife is pretty conservative..
It's hard enough to get her to want to have sex.. She gives the best head ever.. seriously.. No other girl compares.. But when it's time for me to blow it, it's gotta be in a towel or on my shirt or self. But I so want to give her a facial or cum on her tits or ass or all over her back..

Anybody got any advice how to make her more comfortable with it?

I think her lack of wanting kids scares her.. so even on birth control we have to have sex with a condom on, and I think that same anxiety makes her adverse to the thoughts of my cum touching her body..

Hence why I live vicariously through other forum members.. watching them fulfilling the fantasies I so wish I could be making!

There may not be anything I CAN do (and she makes me 100% happy otherwise).. So I may just have to grit my teeth and keep living vicariously.. right?

Its all about the right time a mood. Take her on a date and do a lot of sweet talking then give her a little dirty talk while she is blowing you. You just might get her in the mood and get lucky...Who knows she might end up really liking it.:D

Perhaps some alcohol?
She must have a favorite cocktail that she drinks. Get her in the "playfull" mood. Maybe you can score then. And let her get used to the idea.

It helps to let her feel that it means allot to you too. Kinda puts her in the position that if she "really" loves you, that she'll be able to do some sacrifices for you.

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Originally Posted by bigpp

Its all about the right time a mood. Take her on a date and do a lot of sweet talking then give her a little dirty talk while she is blowing you. You just might get her in the mood and get lucky...Who knows she might end up really liking it.:D

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Yeah I hope, however based on her up bringing it's hard as hell to even get her in any kind of mood! Still something I'll keep trying to accomplish as opposed to giving up though!

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Originally Posted by psychox75

Perhaps some alcohol?
She must have a favorite cocktail that she drinks. Get her in the "playfull" mood. Maybe you can score then. And let her get used to the idea.

It helps to let her feel that it means allot to you too. Kinda puts her in the position that if she "really" loves you, that she'll be able to do some sacrifices for you.

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Alcohol is a possibility, she doesn't really drink very much, but when she does it is a bit more easy to convince her of things.
I certainly don't want to make her feel she HAS to if she loves me. But it is something I'd love to do!

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Originally Posted by deviltamer

My wife is pretty conservative..
It's hard enough to get her to want to have sex.. She gives the best head ever.. seriously.. No other girl compares.. But when it's time for me to blow it, it's gotta be in a towel or on my shirt or self. But I so want to give her a facial or cum on her tits or ass or all over her back..

Anybody got any advice how to make her more comfortable with it?

I think her lack of wanting kids scares her.. so even on birth control we have to have sex with a condom on, and I think that same anxiety makes her adverse to the thoughts of my cum touching her body..

Hence why I live vicariously through other forum members.. watching them fulfilling the fantasies I so wish I could be making!

There may not be anything I CAN do (and she makes me 100% happy otherwise).. So I may just have to grit my teeth and keep living vicariously.. right?

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Sometimes just being honest works! Tell her this is a fantasy of yours, and make sure she knows you find this act sexy and not degrading or dominating, and the rest of us will cross our fingers for you! In my experiences though, sadly, some girls just will not/do not ever want a facial.

I was in a similar boat for a long time. I've been together with my wife for 9 years now and for the first few years she wasnt keen on cum on her.

She was ok with cum inside her though but she now "likes" (she will offer) me cumming on her tits and/or back but still doesnt want it on her face or in her hair.

The first time she let me cum on her tits was on holiday on our 1 year anniversary. We had both had a few drinks and it was a romantic night. I made her cum really hard while 69'ing and she was so horny she kept jerking me off till I warned her (as I normally do) but rather than grab a towel she just pointed me at her tits. I cleaned her up and was so turned on we went again right away.

I think she realised how horny it made me and now its a pretty regular event.

Just avoid pressuring her but let her know its a fantasy of yours. You can always ask to try it in the shower first so its easier to clean up.

Good luck!

My girl wont take cum anywhere. She let me cum in her mouth once, hated it, and she said never again. She doesn't seem into it, but I want to cum on her tits/face badly. Advice?

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Originally Posted by Andreas69

My girl wont take cum anywhere. She let me cum in her mouth once, hated it, and she said never again. She doesn't seem into it, but I want to cum on her tits/face badly. Advice?

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AT least I'm not the only one. :)

Patience, honesty and respect works best. But you can't expect miracles. People are who they are and rarely change that much. Sometimes you run across someone who is shy and repressed but secretly wants to let go. With the right encouragement it works with them. That does not sound like the case here. Sex is a visceral, emotional element rooted deep in their pysche. There is not a whole lot they or anyone else can do to fundamentally change that by the time they are an adult. They can work at it but there are real limitations. It sounds like your wife has some serious problems with cum, sex, maybe even motherhood. Your best bet is to try having a non-confrontational conversation about it. Pick a neutral, safe spot, ie. not your bedroom, and approach it from the perspective that you want to know what she thinks and feels, not what you want her to do. Maybe you will learn something about your wife, and maybe she will learn to be a little more comfortable with you....and your cum.
Best of luck.

Believe me you are not the only one. My wife doesn't really drink and it's hard to get her in any form of mood. Fortunately she will let me cum on her body, but I really want to cum on her face and in her mouth. I want her to play with it. Can't see it ever happening.

Im having a new problem. My woman will let me cum in her mouth byt she acts disgusted and spit it right out. She won't let me cum on her anywhere, I want to facial her.

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Originally Posted by Andreas69

Im having a new problem. My woman will let me cum in her mouth byt she acts disgusted and spit it right out. She won't let me cum on her anywhere, I want to facial her.

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Brian1453 posted a really great response that I think is a great way to handle a situation like this. If she knows that you want to cum on her and she doesn't want to try no matter how much you ask, then there is a strong possibility that her attitude won't change.

Brian was bang on on this - it's about respect and if your girl is not into having cum on her, it's her right - afterall it is her body and there's nothing you can do about it.

The suggestion about talking to her about it is the best strategy. I started dating a girl a couple of weeks ago and she loves cum in her mouth. But at 37, she had never taken a facial and we talked about it and the other night I gave her her first - three days of waiting and her face was covered. She laughed, enjoyed herself and now she's willing to wear my sperm out in public or on her clothes etc...

The fact is that I meet her needs and she meets mine. It's a two way street and if you want something you should be willing to give something to her.

Just my two cents.

some couples go into relationships explaining their kinks and turn-ons. its a great way to assess compatibility before things get really serious. other couples just end up discovering things together. Mr. Pix and I got lucky that way. he was into facials before we got together but didn't feel comfortable bringing it up until we'd been together a while. on the other hand, he also knew I was very sexually adventurous. honestly, I would have been gung-ho from the start, he was the shy one!

Brian's answer is fantastic. its difficult to change a woman's mind on some sexual kinks, the social knowledge of facials tends to be really negative. unfortunate but true.

just dont pressure her. if you do, you wil most likely fail.

Hiya,
Before we got married seven years ago my wife used to let me come on her face and tits all the time. I kind of realise nowhow hard she was trying to please me as she wasn't really into it and the chances of her letting me do that these days are.....ahem ! Just wish i'd have recorded something back then, but she doesn't really like making amateur porn either (we've only done that once without a facial). Like people are saying, patience, the right mood, and a few drinks...hope springs eternal ! Good luck anyway !

If she is not into it, no amount of; pleading, alcohol, ganja, romantic dinners, holding hands in the park, sweet nothings in the ear, picking up your socks off the floor, offering to do the laundry, raking leaves, making dinner......

She either does it or not, seems to be little in between.

Depends, my ex was good looking but(and i dont disrespect her but it was a fact)wasn't very smart.
Very easy to convince things so when we started our relationship, i watched porn with her and said that was normal, then i said that everything in those movies is what most people do.
So after a few months, anal seks, facials etc. was common practice.

With my new gf, who is like a 1000 times smarter, well that tactic would never work.
But she is someone who likes to experiment now and then(drugs).
I'll stay sober( i hate mind altering substances) but when she took an xtc pil once, well, the seks was hardcore porn sex, finishd by a facial from that time on, she permits it in situations where she herself is in the mood.

So it varies per person, only thing you should never do is using FORCE (physical/mentally) to get what you want, doesnt work.

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Brian was bang on on this - it's about respect and if your girl is not into having cum on her, it's her right - afterall it is her body and there's nothing you can do about it.

The suggestion about talking to her about it is the best strategy. I started dating a girl a couple of weeks ago and she loves cum in her mouth. But at 37, she had never taken a facial and we talked about it and the other night I gave her her first - three days of waiting and her face was covered. She laughed, enjoyed herself and now she's willing to wear my sperm out in public or on her clothes etc...

The fact is that I meet her needs and she meets mine. It's a two way street and if you want something you should be willing to give something to her.

Just my two cents.

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This guy is bang on. I thought I'd put my two cents in from a girl's perspective. Make sure you focus on what turns her on as well. Perhaps ask if she has any fetishes or anything new she wants to try. Trust and communication is key. Let her know without any pressure what you'd really like to try and then leave it up to her with no pleading and pressure.... She might just need time to think about it. I never wanted anything to do with this site when my man first asked me but he didn't pressure me and I just thought about it myself. Make sure you let her know about the amazing stuff she already does. .. It's a good boost of confidence :)

I recommend you to talk to her about a fake facial with fake cum recipes.
That way she will get used to it and eventually let you give her a real one, maybe the first one could be like a test like "tell me if it feels different the fake and the real".

As someone who is currently in the twilight era of my sex-life, let me say that while I certainly respect Brian's thoughts on persuasion and respect, let me point out that respect is a two way street. Some respect for your needs and fulfillment needs to be displayed IMMEDIATELY, even if it is only a half-way gesture. Flat out refusal to participate, exclamations of 'disgust' or 'revulsion' are a non-starter for a continued relationship, unless she is so special to you, that your desires can be capped-up and discarded (dangerous, and unhealthy phsycologically, (sp?). If 'discussion' keeps things unresolved, then cut the cord. Painful at first, but trust me, as someone who never realized most of sexual desires until over 40 years of age, life is way too damn short to spend it with a prude. There are plenty of gals of brain and ambition out there who know that desire is a two way street. Methinks you give your current partner waaaaay too much credit for intelligence, or you are confusing intelligence for deviousness, as she is getting everything she desires, and your are getting........to cum in a towel???? WTF?? Time to face reality dude, if you want to be married to a towel you found the perfect gal, otherwise you need to get out there in the pond and find some more fish! Make it clear, that you desire more 'porn-style' sex (uninhibited sex) or there is no need for you to remain unsatisfied and needing to share your bed with a towel, and let her decide what address she wants to sleep at.

My wife wasn't used to sucking dick when I first meet her, she would never go very deep but what I've found is that if I 69 her and get her cumming nice and hard then I can really start fucking her face and she even gags a bit but just keeps going. She still doesn't like it when I cum in her mouth but as long as I get her cumming nice and hard then she doesn't mind if I pull out and cum on her face... :D

So lick her pussy out and get her cumming nice and hard and she will reward you.

My wife says she is too old for sex and no amount of coaxing cajoling etc will change her. So I am loving this forum and living my sex life through the lives of others while I jerk off, now freeze and cook with my cum