How can I convince my gf to take more facials?

So basically I am 26, she is 21, and I have given her probably about a dozen facials in the past and everytime it's incredible. I can really cover her face with about 10 plus ropes. I absolutely don't want to force her or make her feel pressured, but now facials have been designated to very special occasions which are few and far between. She is very apprehensive about them now and it could literally just be once a year. We used to come up with deals for them, like I'd buy her a small gift in exchange for a facial lol but I hate the idea of that now.

Like I said, I can't make her do them if she doesn't want to and the last thing I want to do is make her feel pressured and put off by me, but they are literally my only fetish in sex and I would just appreciate being able to do them just a bit more frequently, even once or twice a month is fine!

Appreciate any advice.

Thanks

As someone in a very similar situation I can only advise two things. 1- Don’t push it and 2- Find a way to reintroduce them

The first should speak for itself. Nobody wants anything pushed on them and men who do, well are arseholes.

But in terms of finding ways to bring them back more often this might seem more complicated than it seems and you need to find what works. Example being that my wife doesn’t really like them know knows I do and offers/ allows me to every now and then.
What I have found over time is that she’s more excited by them and even asks for them if we are having rough sex. So not only does this manage my expectations the rest of the time, it’s also makes me know what in what events it’s more likely to happen, and how to make it work for me.

Anyway. Try and find what works, how she can become more excited by or at least obliging in them

My wife was hesitant/tolerant for our first few years of marriage, eventually turning into a cum whore milf that craved cum and facials and when we became swingers started taking them from other guys even. What happened for me was lots of patience, reassurance, normalizing all kinds of sex to reverse the damage of mainstream views on sex, embracing porn, etc. At one point I explained to her just how much beauty and respect I have for her before, during, and after all sex acts and especially facials. Over the years she became so much more confident and liberated. It may not happen as soon as you like (or at all) but with patience and keeping a super positive view of sex and cum and facials, maybe you will get there with her. Of course it helps to treat her like a queen, constantly be working on improving yourself, and so on.

Maybe its the amount of cum. Next time after the first few ropes, aim somewhere else.

Try to get her into cum first by showing her hii oh w much u get turned on by cumming on her body, her feet, hands and then maybe she’ll let u cum on her check and finally mouth, all good things cum to those who wait. Oh and don’t be an asshole or that door will close forever…

Don´t push it and try speak with her. My wife was very not in to it and now...well, what a crazy craver!!

My wife now asks for me to cum on her cheek and she enjoys it, today some ran into her mouth, see if she gets used to flavor.. I let her squirt in my mouth and she’s a big squirter.. she loves it so it’s only fair that I do the same to her..

After 7 years of nothing, and 6 months of being the luckiest man alive, what triggered the shift is trust, confidence, and her knowing facials were a huge fantasy for me. Hope this helps

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Originally Posted by justforme11

So basically I am 26, she is 21, and I have given her probably about a dozen facials in the past and everytime it's incredible. I can really cover her face with about 10 plus ropes. I absolutely don't want to force her or make her feel pressured, but now facials have been designated to very special occasions which are few and far between. She is very apprehensive about them now and it could literally just be once a year. We used to come up with deals for them, like I'd buy her a small gift in exchange for a facial lol but I hate the idea of that now.

Like I said, I can't make her do them if she doesn't want to and the last thing I want to do is make her feel pressured and put off by me, but they are literally my only fetish in sex and I would just appreciate being able to do them just a bit more frequently, even once or twice a month is fine!

Appreciate any advice.

Thanks

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I'll gladly take 10 ropes to the face if she won't.

Yeah, don't do "deals" for facials. It may seem like harmless fun and you may get a handful of facials out of them, but all it will do is make her feel objectified and you feeling like you just paid for sex. I'm saying this from experience with my wife.

I have a few theories, but only you know exactly what's going on in your relationship. My first thought is it sounds like you're making it too much of a thing. She knows you want facials, but if you're always talking about it or she knows you're always on this forum or looking at porn, then it may be a turnoff for her. Taking a facial for a lot of women is a submissive thing - maybe she feels awkward about it because society frowns upon women being submissive. Or - and this is my best guess - maybe her needs are not being met in the relationship and this is her way of expressing it. She knows you want something, but she's not getting what she wants, so she subconsciously decides you won't get what you want.

My wife doesn't particularly like facials but she doesn't hate them either. She allows me to cum on her face because she knows it makes me happy and she wants me to be happy. When her needs are met and she feels loved and romanced, then I get joy and enthusiasm out of her when I blast a load onto her face. When she's not feeling particularly close to me, then I get a stoic expression with zero emotion as cum cascades from her forehead, onto her eyes and closed mouth before the load rests on her chest. That's when I know we need to take a step back from facials and I need to focus on what she needs/wants.

My advice would be for you to focus on her needs. Romance her, talk to her, go on dates, snuggle, hold her hand, show interest in what's going on in her life, but don't bring up facials or sex or anything like that. Be intimate for a while (like at least a couple of months) where you do everything she enjoys. If there is no pressure from you to cum on her face, then she may want you to do it because wants you to be happy. If you try this and she still doesn't bring up the idea of taking a facial from you, then don't be angry or frustrated with her. Have a serious conversation about how much you enjoy being with her, how much you want her to be happy, but explain that you giving her a facial is a huge turn on for you, makes you feel like she accepts you, and that when she doesn't consider it then you feel rejected. She may not understand the importance or she may not care. If she doesn't care then you might have to move on.

Let us know how it goes.

Maybe try to compromise with her to make her feel more comfortable. In my situation, my wife doesn't like cum getting in her eyes, so I asked her if she would wear sunglasses or a blindfold when I give her facials. That way her eyes are protected and I still get to cum on her face.

My first girlfriend swallowed initially every time we had sex because of her mother’s preventative suggestion. I enjoyed immensely looking at facial pictures and developed a desire of trying out. My girlfriend found my porn magazines which pictured mainly sperm covered faces and she wasn’t surprised when I asked her “Can I cum in your face as well?” and I did but she didn’t like it at first and I had to apologise. But eventually, she asked me for a facial because she knew it made me happy and she didn’t feel ashamed anymore.
I would be personal happy when my girlfriend accepts occasionally a facial…

While eating her pussy, make her cum and squirt on your face and in your mouth while you beg for it. Show her how hot it is, and not degrading, when someone wants you to cum all over their face.

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Originally Posted by justforme11

So basically I am 26, she is 21, and I have given her probably about a dozen facials in the past and everytime it's incredible. I can really cover her face with about 10 plus ropes. I absolutely don't want to force her or make her feel pressured, but now facials have been designated to very special occasions which are few and far between. She is very apprehensive about them now and it could literally just be once a year. We used to come up with deals for them, like I'd buy her a small gift in exchange for a facial lol but I hate the idea of that now.

Like I said, I can't make her do them if she doesn't want to and the last thing I want to do is make her feel pressured and put off by me, but they are literally my only fetish in sex and I would just appreciate being able to do them just a bit more frequently, even once or twice a month is fine!

Appreciate any advice.

Thanks

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Obviously she doesn’t enjoy them as much as you, my lady loves them more than I do the love she has for me is why she loves them so much even if she hated them she would still do it , maybe you need a conversation about them and hear what she thinks

I agree with most of what has been said. The main thing is to focus on fulfilling your wife's needs outside of the bedroom.

One thing that I have had some success with in the past is to tell the woman that I'm with that I had a fetish about cumming on a certain object or aspect of her face. For example, everyone knows that facials are a thing in porn and a certain percentage of women find them degrading. I've no idea what that percentage is or whether it's higher in older women vs younger women who have grown up with the internet and for whom porn-sex has become normalized.

But although every woman know that the concept of facials is a porn inspired thing, I used to tell women that I have a fetish about cumming on her lipstick. I've also told them that I have a fetish about coming on her sunglasses. Both are true of course but the bigger reality is that I have a facial fetish and the fact that the cum may get on her lips/lipstick is only a part of the larger fetish.

Never-the-less, it did work at times. Because I think the 'cum on her sunglasses while she's wearing them' fetish seemed unique to me and not necessarily porn influenced, the woman's natural 'facials-are-degrading' impulse didn't seemed triggered.

Of course if you're going to ejaculate over her lips or sunglasses, the cum will get everywhere anyway. At any rate, asking to cum on her lipstick or lip gloss I guess doesn't seem as personal. So it has worked a few times with women in my past who weren't comfortable with facials but didn't seem to have the same objection or problem with the cum target being less personalized: ie, lipstick or sunglasses.

(By the way, it is true that when I was about 15 or 16 I was in a restaurant and there was a couple sitting a few tables from me. She was drinking hot chocolate with whipped cream or a foamy milkshake. They were being sexually flirtatious with each other and either he or she--I can't remember which--was being sexually suggestive by putting the cream on her lips and she would suggestively lick it off. Then they'd giggle and do it again. Watching it was so fucking sexy for my horny teenage mind and that incidence was probably a big factor as to why I developed such a cum facial fetish.

Fast forward to adulthood and I often have told that story to girls I was with to explain why I had a 'cum on lipstick' fetish. There's truth in that. But I think that story made my desire to cum on her mouth more natural and innocent. You're free to use that story if you want!)

My wife was conditioned by her ex and first love who simply refused to give her his cum, saying she wasn't good enough for it. He was very dominant and verbally abusive. Actually, he wasn't a nice guy, but she was totally into him at the time.

He would only pull out after making her cum and then on his own, cum on the floor and tell her that if she wanted his cum she could lick it up. She developed an insatiable appetite to be cummed on and in to complete the sex act. Her ex had left her feeling anything less was a failure.

Other than a good fucking, facials and bukkake are her deepest desires.

I don't suggest trying to take such an approach with your wife or girlfriend. We've had a lot to untangle from past abuse and all but at least when it comes to entbusiasm for facials we are on the same page.