Stripper Advice

[userly234]

Okay, I need some questions answered, and don't know who else to ask. I'm not a big strip club guy, but we went to one for my buddy's bachelor party this weekend. Needless to say, I ended up going back to the VIP room with this one stripper because I was enchanted. Not by her tits or anything like that, she was just utterly amazing to talk to. Long story short, I got her number and we've been texting back and fourth regularly since Saturday night. (My first question is, how common is that?)

Long story short, My buddy's wedding is in two weeks, and I will be back there, and there are tentative plans to see each other (outide of the VIP room) (again, how common is that? This and the other one are just because I don't know whether to be impressed with myself or not). This girl is absolutely amazing, and I don't mean "bitch can shake dat ass" amazing, but instead "I could easily see myself absolutely falling in love with this chick, rather quickly" kind of amazing.

Any guidance? How do I navigate through this?

[snesh]

I have no experience on this, but I would say to tread lightly - chances are that this is just a way to get you back to make money, so if the 'first date' is back at the strip club then warning bells should be going off. That said, just because she is a stripper doesn't mean that she isn't also a normal woman who wants to find love just like everyone else (and lets face it, when you work full time it is often hard to meet people outside of work) so I wouldn't be completely skeptical.

[spence]

I recognised a girl working at a dance club as she lived near me, chatted with her and she was a full time student who had qualifications in dance and saw it as a good way to make money doing something she enjoyed and with no real hassle, strippers no doubt like to see regulars and will probably text them too as phones could be all in with the club, but this could be her doing it on her own back and quite innocent as well and she woman might just like you, keep your wits about you and only time will see.

[userly234]

Firstly, thanks for the replys guys. It is really appreciated. There isn't a facial pic out there good enough to pay you back!

I have no experience on this, but I would say to tread lightly - chances are that this is just a way to get you back to make money, so if the 'first date' is back at the strip club then warning bells should be going off. That said, just because she is a stripper doesn't mean that she isn't also a normal woman who wants to find love just like everyone else (and lets face it, when you work full time it is often hard to meet people outside of work) so I wouldn't be completely skeptical.

I would agree with you, were it not for the fact that I have made it clear that I'm never going back to a strip club, even hers (I had the same suspicions). See, I have no experiences with strippers either, but it felt like there was a real connection. My only doubt comes from the fact that the whole idea of a strip club and a VIP room is to trick men into thinking that! We've spoken steadily every day since, and the more we talk, the less I am fearful I'm being used.

I recognised a girl working at a dance club as she lived near me, chatted with her and she was a full time student who had qualifications in dance and saw it as a good way to make money doing something she enjoyed and with no real hassle, strippers no doubt like to see regulars and will probably text them too as phones could be all in with the club, but this could be her doing it on her own back and quite innocent as well and she woman might just like you, keep your wits about you and only time will see.

Side note, some of the girls there were very impressive dancers. Not just "hey they can work a pole" kind of dancers, but they were very graceful and had to have some training, so I wouldn't be surprised if some of them were the same as your friend.

Again guys, thanks for the kind words. I've been going crazy thinking about this girl. Anyway, D-Day is a week from Friday. When I get back, I'll be sure to let you guys know how it turns out! Keep your fingers crossed...

[mrsabi]

Just stummbled across this post and felt I'd leave my two cents... I visit strip clubs on a regular basis because in my area the happy hours and lunch specials can't really be beat. ($7.00 Porterhouse steaks with two sides and an amazing view!) I also have a very close friend that I've know since grade school that married a stripper.

With that said I can tell you there are two types of girl in the strip club.... The good girls and the bad girls. The good girls unfortunatly get a bad wrap because of the venue and steriotypes that are passed around by guys. There are good girls that dance. They are smart enough to not get caught up in the vices that come along with the profession and realize that its an easy way to make fast money. These are the girls that typically dont get on the stage, only give VIP room dances, and work at clubs far from their homes. You wont see those girls hustling guys for drinks, and getting tipsy drunk by the end of their shift. This is the kind of girl my friend married. She made about a $1,000 a day and bought her car, and house cash. Now i don't know if she was getting guys off in the back, but she was always classy while on the floor. When her and my friend started seeing each other she never discussed money or made him feel any more obligated to open his wallet than any other female.

Bad girls are completly different. They are trying to hustle guys for as much as they can before they become all washed up. Some good girls become bad girls sadly enough, but the bad ones are always easy to spot out. They are usually looking for drinks, cant hold a serious conversation without asking you to dance, and are only interested in money money money. I've met girls that play it off very well.I've met up with girls outside of their club and went on dates and thought they were a good girl until you get that phone call where their car broke down, or the club was slow and cant pay thier rent, or their mom is sick! I've hung out with a girl for a month. Slept with her (condoms of course), spent the night at place, without her mentioning cash; and just when they think you have feelings for them they hit you with the sob story.

My advice to you is to be mindful of your wallet and heart. Treat her with the upmost respect as you would a girl who wasn't a stripper, and if that day comes where she needs to borrow some cash, have an excuse ready and dont fall for it. If she never asks you for cash, then she's a good girl. The only problem you'll have at that point is her resume, because getting a job that pays as much as she makes in the club is what my buddy is dealing with now.

Good luck and let me know if I can offer anymore advice.

[MikeSouth]

As A strip club owner (former)

the odds are 10 to 1 that she is playing you...remember thats her job. The minute you gave her money you defined your relationship forever.

[Brian1453]

Just adding to the chorus here. Who knows, you might be the lucky one, but the odds are bad. Most strippers are not looking for boyfriends in strip clubs. The ones who want to make some cash and move on normally don't want to advertise that they were stripping, so they don't want the complications of a relationship that began there. The jaded die hards on the other hand are more than willing to string you along for extra cash. So be careful.

[userly234]

As A strip club owner (former)

the odds are 10 to 1 that she is playing you...remember thats her job. The minute you gave her money you defined your relationship forever.

HOLY SHIT MIKE SOUTH! I just got stripper advice (that ruined my day by the way) from Mike South! I'm insanely dazed, and disappointed. If anyone knows about strippers, it's you...

Edit: This is in no way meant to be sarcastic. I was genuinely taken aback seeing you on here, after seeing you quoted in so many articles on blogs I frequent. Mainstream ones, too. I think Gawker did a piece on you, didn't they?

[MikeSouth]

HOLY SHIT MIKE SOUTH! I just got stripper advice (that ruined my day by the way) from Mike South! I'm insanely dazed, and disappointed. If anyone knows about strippers, it's you...

Edit: This is in no way meant to be sarcastic. I was genuinely taken aback seeing you on here, after seeing you quoted in so many articles on blogs I frequent. Mainstream ones, too. I think Gawker did a piece on you, didn't they?

glad I made yer day and sorry I ruined it but one thing I bet you know about me is I dont bullshit

yep gawker did a piece and cnbc called me one of porns 10 most powerful people for 2013

it doesnt change the fact that i see myself as just a regular guy same as everyone else here...you ask what I think i will tell ya honestly

lol maybe the mods wanna start an ask mike south thread....

[snesh]

Actually when i said that i had no experience that was actually untrue - one of the stories above reminded me that one of my friend's old school friends was a dancer in one of the big clubs in London (I think it was spearmint). I only met her a few times and not in the club setting, but she seemed cool. she did exactly the above - made a shit-ton of money, bought her house and then settled down with a normal guy. I think she is in law now, or something equally well-paying. So it does happen.