
Originally Posted by
ClaireJay
This is more of a fantasy forum that a sex advice one, but I'm going to come right out and say it anyway: If you don't have her consent, it's assault. Best case she enjoys it, worst case she's pissed and bites your dick off; either way it's a betrayal of trust. Just ask her. The big question though is when to ask.
Not sure how useful this is, but I'm much more up for to requests when I'm very horny and in the moment. That's usually before I climax, but when I'm getting fairly close. After I orgasm, my libido drops a bit, and I'm less likely to go for it. But if my significant other is inside me and we're both getting pretty close, and he tells me what he wants, he generally gets it. I don't think he really understands that yet, or the requests (and probably his semen) might come a bit thick and fast. But still, it works. I'm caught up in the moment, and I'll agree to pretty much anything. I would probably freak out and ruin the mood if he surprised me with something extreme... but if he's talked about it before, I know he's into it, and it didn't repulse me then, I'm probably down.
One other option: my current SO and I (along with a few past partners) have a rich tradition of giving the other what they want on their birthday. In my case that usually means he does the dishes, runs a bath and spends 20mins going down on me while I watch Downton Abbey. In his case, things are a bit more varied. We're quite literal: I ask him what he would like me to do for him, and he spells it out in detail. Fairly sure he spends the rest of the year plotting. And then we go for it, and he more or less gets what he wants. That often includes me wishing I'd brought an umbrella.
One way into this would be to do for her what you would like her to do for you. Next birthday, tell her you're at her disposal and ask what she would enjoy in the bedroom. Just a thought.
CJx