I've participated in over 20 bukkakes. A friend of mine organizes them, and I suppose I do too, as I help out quite a bit. You are right about the flakes, it is difficult to get a lot of guys to show. Occasionally the girl gets cold feet too. You have to overbook to back up and communicate clearly, and have a back-up girl. We have a great established group now and party 6-8 times a year. It is a lot of work to put together, but ultimately worth it. If anyone is interested in, well, being the center of attention if you are a lady, or being a participant if you are a guy, let me know. We are in the Bay Area, California.