Quote Originally Posted by nematode View Post
my issue with oral is, most girls are just 'going through the paces' and not very good at it, or show much enjoyment from it. when it seems to be a chore, i don't enjoy it, or i feel bad about it. total cumshot buzzkill. this is usually nervous, early date blowjobs, or women who don't think much of it in general other than 'guys like it, i guess i'll do it'
That can be totally true. Or maybe they're just bad at it. I've had a few girls who seemed to be trying, but really just had no real idea of what to do other than put it in their mouth. Neither women nor men are born with oral skills. They have to learn and more importantly want to learn. There's also no set technique that works on everyone as some like things rougher or gentler or in different spots than others.

However, if overall a guy has a problem cumming there may be another issue. Do you jerk off a lot yourself or did you used to? There could be some amount of desensitization. Also after awhile of this it becomes partially a mental block, you may get "tired" of the experience yourself and that's not exciting at all.

Maybe try having no sex or masturbation for awhile, or just giving her oral. If you concentrate on getting her off you may inspire her to do a better job on you next time (if her performance is an issue). Maybe talk to her about specific things she can do and not do with her mouth and hand. But also take the time to figure out what really excites you and what you're thinking of and doing when you do cum.

If your penis overall has less sensation, is it dry a lot? You could try some kind of healing ointment, I actually started doing that and find it restores the skin nicely. Something like a Triple Antibiotic or Aquaphor that's meant to both lubricate and heal any damage. Put it on and leave it on, let it soak in (of course that's a bit messier if you're circumcised, but if your underwear's thick enough it shouldn't soak through).