It can get complicated and seem contradictory. But I know in my personal experience that I get really excited when a woman obviously loves getting a facial, or NOT. When she does, her excitement and what she does with it makes a true "cumslut" - said with all due respect - one of the best sexual partners ever. So the opposite should be bad, right? Well, again in my experience, no. A woman who just refuses, bjs, facials or both, makes me move along to someone else. No hard feelings, but life is too short. That sort of thing. But, a woman who clearly does not like facials, and still agrees to do it anyway, because she knows how much it means to me, is another keeper. It is not about coercion or power, it is about desire. A woman who wants my cum, appeals to every part of me as a man and as a sexual being. But a woman who does not want it, but still agrees because she wants ME, sort of side-steps that and makes her very attractive because I know she is doing that totally for me. I know that sounds selfish in a way, but that kind of commitment is a big turn on. So, either way it is exciting.