I get both views. Worries me (not to mention turns me off) when I find guys who are obsessed with punishing women, and degredation is all that turns them on. But I also understand the release for a women from being taken roughly, told what to do, even used.
I think we're sometimes so conditioned to believe that sex is bad or sinful that it can be hard to let go, and a little rough treatment absolves us of that responsibility. That goes for bondage, submission, some role play, etc etc.
I'm much more uninhibited with my hands tied behind my back and a guy holding my hair pulling me onto his cock. Not that being uninhibited is much use - I'm inhibited by other things at that point.
There's also less need to worry about your tummy and makeup when you're bent over a chair being pounded from behind, or getting slapped in the face by his cock.
I don't want to paint all women as repressed and makeup-obsessed, but that's the constant pressure from society, magazines, celebrity etc.
Right, philosophy over. Back to the cumshots.
CJx