Stripper Advice

[gloryholeprincess]

...Not by her tits or anything like that, she was just utterly amazing to talk to....

I am not familiar with the strip club scene but I am familiar with people thinking that a woman with a sex site is just doing it for the money.

I have a Masters in Library Science. I graduated at the top of my class at a very highly ranked university. I also have two conference papers published. Am I sex worker or a librarian with an intense sexual streak? Obviously, I don't need the money. The main reason I have a site is for the kink of it. The extra money does allow guilt free travel and sex accessories shopping but the kink is a far bigger reward. A side benefit has been that it has brought a bunch of people into my life that share exactly my kinks. I had been on swing sites for years and was always too kinky for most people. The men, couples and one woman that I have met from my site and Facial Forum, I consider friends, people with whom I like to have conversations as well as nasty, kinky sex. There is no money involved. It is just the sharing of fun times.

Also, my man met a woman in a strip place. His tale is similar to your story. They were both IATSE members and they clicked in a few minutes. He met her at a later date and they just had good sex. No money involved. He still gets an email from her occasionally. She wants to meet me.

Go on a date with this woman.
Do it without a whole bunch of negativity. Maybe 99 out of 100 strippers are in it for the money but maybe you found the one in a hundred that enjoys the kink of it. I think it will be far harder for her to trust you than the other way around. Be honest with her, always, and see where this road takes you.
Piper

[userly234]

I am not familiar with the strip club scene but I am familiar with people thinking that a woman with a sex site is just doing it for the money.

I have a Masters in Library Science. I graduated at the top of my class at a very highly ranked university. I also have two conference papers published. Am I sex worker or a librarian with an intense sexual streak? Obviously, I don't need the money. The main reason I have a site is for the kink of it. The extra money does allow guilt free travel and sex accessories shopping but the kink is a far bigger reward. A side benefit has been that it has brought a bunch of people into my life that share exactly my kinks. I had been on swing sites for years and was always too kinky for most people. The men, couples and one woman that I have met from my site and Facial Forum, I consider friends, people with whom I like to have conversations as well as nasty, kinky sex. There is no money involved. It is just the sharing of fun times.

Also, my man met a woman in a strip place. His tale is similar to your story. They were both IATSE members and they clicked in a few minutes. He met her at a later date and they just had good sex. No money involved. He still gets an email from her occasionally. She wants to meet me.

Go on a date with this woman.
Do it without a whole bunch of negativity. Maybe 99 out of 100 strippers are in it for the money but maybe you found the one in a hundred that enjoys the kink of it. I think it will be far harder for her to trust you than the other way around. Be honest with her, always, and see where this road takes you.
Piper

I'm going to. I've been discussing it with my buddy, and he said "Dude, I've never heard you talk about a chick like this before. It's a fucked up situation, but you have to at least try." He confirmed what I already knew. We set an actual date yesterday. Going out to lunch for sure. Even if it is a small chance, she very easily could be the girl of my dreams.

On a personal note, I now see why you are so loved here. The countless photos of your beautiful face covered in cum aside (busted my pre-bedtime nut to one last night), the fact that you took time out of your obviously busy life to build up my confidence means a lot. In this specific case, just sheer logic and probability could easily turn to cynicism on my part, but in my heart I am and always will be a hopeless romantic. Even so, sometimes I need a little push in the right direction. So, thank you (for the push, and the pictures!).

[Dimmesdale]

Userly234,

What were you wearing, especially your shoes? Were they expensive? What is your job (be general if need be, but specific for salary)? Did you tell her your job? What has been said between you two about money?

I think the above answers could help to clarify the situation.

I'm, and I think most people, are interested as to how this is going to turn out.

At the worst, if she's just using you for money, and you realize it, give her some facials, take some pics, and have a time of it. Unless you can't stop thinking about her even after you realized she's using you.

[gloryholeprincess]

....she very easily could be the girl of my dreams...but in my heart I am and always will be a hopeless romantic. ...

Go slowly, Userly. You could scare her away. It would scare me away if I was single and someone thought I was the woman of his dreams. That said, you are absolutely so sweet.
Piper

[alkie]

glad I made yer day and sorry I ruined it but one thing I bet you know about me is I dont bullshit

yep gawker did a piece and cnbc called me one of porns 10 most powerful people for 2013

it doesnt change the fact that i see myself as just a regular guy same as everyone else here...you ask what I think i will tell ya honestly

lol maybe the mods wanna start an ask mike south thread....

Damn, we at FF are sooo happy to have a top ten "A" lister amongst our ranks and such a modest one to boot!!

Glad you are here Mike

[Juliette et Franklin]

I have to agree with Piper. I dated a woman for many years who started dancing while we were dating. She was the same person after she started as she was before. She's just a person, just like you.

[uk_guy]

I have been a regular visitor of strip clubs, I have lived with strippers, dated strippers and had many (girl)friends that are strippers. And all this has been over 15 years.

Strippers learn early how to speak to guys, so they can hold a conversation with any male and keep you chatting. This way they can then charge for a sit-down, where they only chat to you, but you still pay them. (Money for nothing in their eyes).

Mike is right, as soon as you paid for a dance you are now a walking wallet. Meeting a girl in a bar or club and then finding out she is a stripper is a completely different situation as no money has changed hands. In my experience it is unheard of a girl giving out her number to a punter. The only girls I know that have done this also are paid for sex.

I might be wrong in this case, so here is a couple of tests:

1. Arrange a date that is not expensive and no opportunity to spend money , not during the evening, and requires you to both dress down. ie picnic in the park at lunch.
Play it as a thoughtful date that you will both have a laugh at. This way there is no opportunity for her to rack up the bill. If she genuinely likes you then she will just want to spend time with you. If not she will bale or suggest doing something different.

If you want to do a date during a evening then there is one rule. Don't buy a anything for her! Go half and half on the dinner bill, drinks everything, do not buy her anything. I know when a girl that is a stripper is my friend when she buys all the drinks (yes this happen to me on many nights out). If you help her spend the money she makes from stripping then you are in. If she is a good stripper then she will be rolling in money, if she thinks you are more than just a wallet, then she will spend her money on you.

Hope this helps

[userly234]

Go slowly, Userly. You could scare her away. It would scare me away if I was single and someone thought I was the woman of his dreams. That said, you are absolutely so sweet.
Piper

Ahh, see I said *could* be. I don't know yet, and I fully intend to take it slow. And I'd never tell her! Not before or on the first date anyway (or second, third, etc). I'm a romantic, not crazy! But really, thanks for your support!

In fact, I really appreciate everyone's help. I didn't expect this many responses! For those of you insisting I keep my wits about me, I am. Our plan thus far is for lunch around midday. My first test was to see if she even offers to pay for herself (but even if she doesn't I don't think I would be able to let her). I fully expect it to be just a relaxed short lunch. Not only do I have to feel her out, but from her perspective, she has to feel me out to. As of now, I have no hard proof she's not trying to screw me out of my money, and she has no proof I'm not some psycho serial killer (I'm not, I swear).

It looks like you are all split 50/50 between "she's screwing you" and "go for it". I wish I knew how to make a poll! Hard to make a call with an even split (well, to be honest, I've made the call. I'm going to at least go for it. But small inspirations and dashes of reality are always welcome)

THANK YOU GUYS!

[hated]

How did it go man?

[gloryholeprincess]

How did it go man?

Yehhhh, how did it go? lol I hope well.
Piper