I think it's absolutely normal, Claire. When we're caught up in the passion, inhibition falls away. Unfortunately, it's usually waiting just outside the bedroom door. When it's over, every social convention that was the furthest thing from his mind during the act comes rushing back. He may feel ashamed for treating you as an object, embarrassment for revealing his innermost desires, or even just chagrin for having done something to you that he finds distasteful or uncomfortable. He may also be afraid of what you might be thinking of him for wanting to do such "dirty" things to you.

The same thing often happens to me. When we're in the middle of it, pretty much anything goes. I still have concerns for her comfort and desires, but when the face fucking begins, those concerns seem to get farther away. (For the record, it's usually Julliette who initiates the face fucking! ). As soon as it's over, however, and I'm spent, I become acutely aware that the woman I love is sitting there with rapidly cooling juzz running down her face, quite possibly in her eye or up her nose. Juliette isn't one of those who loves cumplay on her own. She doesn't mind it, but doesn't love it. She does it mostly for me. Knowing that makes me immediately concerned that she might be uncomfortable, disgusted, etc. Kind of takes the sexy out of it. It has kept us from exploring things further sometimes. I love taking pictures and video, but have a relatively small number of facials because of exactly what you describe.

It may help if you discuss it with him. Knowing that you you're comfortable with the after party might go a long way.