I am not familiar with the strip club scene but I am familiar with people thinking that a woman with a sex site is just doing it for the money.
I have a Masters in Library Science. I graduated at the top of my class at a very highly ranked university. I also have two conference papers published. Am I sex worker or a librarian with an intense sexual streak? Obviously, I don't need the money. The main reason I have a site is for the kink of it. The extra money does allow guilt free travel and sex accessories shopping but the kink is a far bigger reward. A side benefit has been that it has brought a bunch of people into my life that share exactly my kinks. I had been on swing sites for years and was always too kinky for most people. The men, couples and one woman that I have met from my site and Facial Forum, I consider friends, people with whom I like to have conversations as well as nasty, kinky sex. There is no money involved. It is just the sharing of fun times.
Also, my man met a woman in a strip place. His tale is similar to your story. They were both IATSE members and they clicked in a few minutes. He met her at a later date and they just had good sex. No money involved. He still gets an email from her occasionally. She wants to meet me.
Go on a date with this woman.
Do it without a whole bunch of negativity. Maybe 99 out of 100 strippers are in it for the money but maybe you found the one in a hundred that enjoys the kink of it.I think it will be far harder for her to trust you than the other way around. Be honest with her, always, and see where this road takes you.
Piper